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Hands-On Driving

“Please, Don’t Pick Up That Phone!”

Few actions we undertake on a daily basis are as dangerous as just plain driving a car. If the driver is distracted – by eating, grooming, talking on the phone, or texting – the risk of harm or death skyrockets.

A study out of Virginia Tech shows that around eighty percent of all accidents happen as a result of some form of distracted driving, and that texting doubles the risk of an accident.

But perhaps more powerful than numbers are the stories shared by those who know firsthand the horror of losing a loved one because a driver’s brain was not focused on the road. Survivors mourn the faces behind the statistics. Bound by unimaginable loss, these men, women, and children want the senseless deaths of their family members and friends to matter.

That’s why a few months back, a poised Patty Kruszewski of Henrico County faced more than 300 attendees at the Virginia Distracted Driving Summit and talked about her beloved daughter, Lanie, 24, who was killed by a man driving while texting on his cell phone.

“On the night of July 29 of last year, my youngest daughter became a statistic: the victim of a distracted driver,” Kruszewski, managing editor of the Henrico Citizen, told the attendees. “As she was biking home from her job at a restaurant, she was hit by a driver who admitted in court that he never saw her – even though witnesses testified that she was well-lit and easily visible – because he was looking at his phone instead of at the road.”

The driver, Elias Webb, who received a three-year sentence for his role in the hit and run, failed to see Lanie because “he was supposedly texting a friend a happy birthday message. Hard to escape the irony,” said Kruszewski, “that Webb’s overwhelming need to text a friend about a birthday caused my daughter’s death day.” She was just one of several speakers that day who shared the impact of distracted driving accidents on their lives and how their losses deepened their resolve to spotlight a deadly problem.

Patty Kruszewski, mother of Lanie
Patty Kruszewski, mother of Lanie

The conference was organized by the nonprofit Drive Smart Virginia, a traffic safety advocacy organization. The event attracted industry leaders, scientists, safety advocates, educators, and law enforcement officers from across the state to exchange ideas, hear the latest research, and discuss ways to prevent distracted driving accidents by not only current drivers of all ages, but also with the next generation of drivers.

Chairwoman of the National Transportation Safety Board Deborah A.P. Hersman told attendees that distracted driving accidents are completely preventable. That’s one reason the NTSB is campaigning for a ban on the non-emergency use of smart phones and other portable electronic devices while driving. But many drivers reject a full ban, saying that hands-free devices are safe. Investigators have determined otherwise.

“Many drivers think that if their eyes are on the road, it’s okay,” Hersman said. “But it’s not about what your hands are doing, it’s what your mind is doing. It’s about cognitive distraction and not paying attention to the task at hand. Hands-free does not mean risk-free.”

Poor decisions and human error behind the wheel take a toll. In Virginia last year, 775 people were killed and more than 67,000 were injured in highway accidents, according to the state Department of Motor Vehicles. The economic cost of traffic crashes statewide was an estimated $3.3 billion in 2011, according to the National Safety Council.

“Human factors are a huge issue” in road crashes according to Hersman. The number of fatalities due to distracted driving is uncertain, but the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration estimates the number exceeds 3,300 for 2011. “I think the number is underreported,” Hersman said. “A lot of people don’t survive to tell you what happened.”

But the living can.

Deborah Hersman, NTSB chairwoman
Deborah Hersman, NTSB chairwoman

The impact of losing her youngest daughter, who coached at Maggie Walker Governor’s High School and had planned to go back to college to become a teacher, transformed Kruszewski. “I’ve gone overnight from being an optimistic, energetic person who got out of bed looking forward to each day, to someone who lives in a state of constant dread, drags herself through the day, and functions so poorly at work that I’ve had to drastically curtail my hours,” she said to an attentive audience.

When she sees distracted drivers on the road, Kruszewski becomes enraged.

“When I see drivers texting or talking on the phone, I want to light up a flashing sign on my car that says, ‘Put it down, [expletive]!’ I fantasize about taking out a blowgun and shooting darts into those drivers’ tires. I fantasize about pulling a lever in my car and popping a big iron claw out of my hood that snatches the phone out of their hand,” Kruszewski said.

But even with Virginia’s new law against texting while driving, distracted drivers outnumber the police who have to enforce the law, she said. “The disturbing truth is that there are an awful lot of drivers out there who sit down in their cars like they sit down in their living rooms. They want comfort, entertainment, and their social contacts at their fingertips.”

These distractions come at a human cost, said Charlottesville attorney J. Gregory Webb, who spoke on a panel exploring corporate policies and practices that promote distraction-free driving. “At least fifty percent of my cases are a result of distracted driving,” he said, speculating that “the epidemic” will only worsen. “The ability to distract ourselves with work or social media or communicating is endless. Add to that the good old-fashioned distractions like eating,drinking, and changing the radio, it’s a wonder there aren’t more accidents.”

Webb suggested looking at the issue through a different lens. He said companies are held responsible if an employee who is distracted while driving injures someone during the scope of their employment. “So companies should create a policy and a culture to prevent this from happening,” he said.

“Zero tolerance is what companies need. This is like DUI used to be twenty or thirty years ago. This is the new DUI and it will just get worse because the distractions are everywhere, even in the cars. I just saw an ad for a car with a vacuum cleaner.”

Patty Perutilli, whose husband, Fred, was struck by a texting driver after he stopped along the road to pick up something that had fallen off his truck, said drivers must practice common sense.

“I can’t stress enough how important is it to put that phone down,” she said. “Please, I beg you – don’t make someone else get that phone call. And I pray you never get that phone call, because it changes who you are. The grief never goes away. So please don’t pick up that phone.”

Perutilli said she shares her story in the hopes of changing behavior.

Kruszewski agreed.

By speaking out “maybe a few drivers will get into their cars with an awareness that cars are not living rooms. They are tools, tools with the potential for tremendous destruction,” Kruszewski said. “And I can only hope that they will think of the other drivers, and cyclists, and pedestrians around us not as impediments in our path, but as people, people with faces, precious lives, and family and friends who love them.

Parenting in a Phone-Crazy World

“You’d never close your eyes for five seconds and drive,” says Rob Richardson, public relations and outreach manager with Drive Smart Virginia. “Yet that’s what happens when you text behind the wheel.” On average, five seconds is how long texting takes your eyes off the road. Five seconds is all it takes to alter lives forever.

Of course, drivers encounter lots of distractions while driving – like weather, car horns, signs, and billboards. As drivers, we can’t control those, but as Richardson reminds us, “We can control one of the biggest driving distractions there is – our cell phone.”

Texting and driving takes your hands off the wheel, your eyes of the road, and your mind off the task of driving. That means texting and driving is a manual, visual, and cognitive distraction. While reports show drivers of all ages are texting and driving, many teen drivers on the road have grown up with the cell phones as a natural extension of their hand.

“Traffic crashes are the leading cause of death for teens, and when it comes to distracted driving, teens are most likely to text and drive. When you’re distracted, you increase your chances for crashing,” says Richardson, the father of an 11-year-old.

He offers these strategies to help parents keep teens safe:

• Instruct your teen: When you get in the car, turn your phone off and put your seatbelt on. Seatbelts are the best defense against a distracted driver.

• Teens should only talk on the phone in the car in the event of an emergency. Need to make a call? Pull into a parking lot. Or, if there’s a passenger in the car, the friend should make the call.

• Out of sight, out of mind. If it’s too tough to keep your phone off, try putting it in a locked compartment. It’s less of a distraction if you can’t see it.

• Absolutely no social media when driving. If you see something that would look great on Instagram, ask a passenger to take the picture and post it.

• Never text when driving – even at a stoplight or in traffic.

• Develop a teen/parent driving contract that includes a pledge to not use your phone while driving, and encourage friends to do the same. Teens should also know and understand relevant traffic laws, and be courteous to other drivers. You can find a pledge at

While Richardson’s son isn’t driving yet, he says the tween has practiced plenty behind the wheel of a golf cart. Although preparing your teen to drive is always a good idea, the most important thing parents can do is to set a good example for future drivers. “Don’t talk on the phone and drive. Never text and drive either. Often teens tell us some of the bad driving habits they exhibit are habits they learned from their parents,” says Richardson.


Robin Farmer is a freelance journalist who enjoys writing stories that engage, educate, and empower readers. A screenwriter and poet, she resides in Hanover County with her husband, Mike, and a YA novel-in-the-making.
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