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The Ultimate Gift

Lia TremblayBy Lia TremblayOctober 28, 2012
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When you count your blessings this Thanksgiving, what will be on that list? For the more than 25,000 Americans who received a lifesaving transplant since last Turkey Day, the holiday will be infused with a whole new level of gratitude.

On average, 78 people receive lifesaving organ transplants each day,” says Lisa Schaffner, public relations and marketing director for UNOS, the United Network for Organ Sharing. “When you ask around at work, at church, in your community, you’d be amazed at the number of people who have been touched by organ donation.”

Headquartered in downtown Richmond, UNOS oversees the nationwide matching of organs between deceased donors and living recipients. Unfortunately, there’s a gap between the two that continues to widen: In a 20-year period, the number of people on waiting lists increased by more than 85,000. The number of donors increased by merely 8,700. So why aren’t more people making the decision to donate organs?

“There’s a fear of talking about it,” says Schaffner. “People shy away from talking about death, but this is actually not a conversation about death. It’s about life.”

Multiple lives, in fact: One donor can provide a heart, two lungs, two kidneys, a liver, pancreas and intestines, all to separate recipients. That’s eight lives potentially saved by just one donor.

Dispelling the Myths

Some misconceptions about organ donation may be at the heart of many people’s hesitation to register. Which of these have you been accepting as fact?

Myth #1: If the hospital knows you’re an organ donor, they won’t work hard to save your life. This is not true at all. The team working to save your life in an emergency is entirely separate from the people who would handle your donation if those efforts failed. In fact, hospital personnel are among the likeliest people to become organ donors, having seen for themselves that it can save multiple lives without endangering their own.

Myth #2: I’m too old (or sick) to donate my organs. Age won’t necessarily make your organs unusable (Schaffner recalls a recent donor who was 81 years old!) And very few medical conditions will automatically disqualify your organs from transplantation. Skilled, knowledgeable medical personnel can determine whether your donation is usable when the time comes.

Myth #3: Thousands of people die every day, so there are plenty of organs to go around. People do die every day, but relatively few die under the circumstances that make for a successful organ donation. If there were plenty of organs to go around, there would be no waiting lists.

Myth #4: My family will have an extra medical bill if I donate my organs. Donor families are never charged for the procedures related to organ donation.

Myth #5: It’s against my religion. Are you sure? Most major religions have no restriction on organ donation at all. If you’re not really sure where your faith stands on the issue, talk it over with a member of your clergy.

Becoming a Donor

It’s easier than it’s ever been to establish yourself as an organ donor. The process varies from state to state, but here in Virginia, you can register at the DMV or online.

At the DMV, it’s part of the process for obtaining or renewing your license. Just answer “yes” when asked about organ donation, and you’ll get a little heart icon on your license that shows you’ve made that decision.

To register online, just go to donatelifevirginia.org and follow the directions there. You’ll be added to an official statewide database, where your desire to donate will be recorded.

Both of these methods will make your decision to donate a legally binding contract, which means one less decision for your loved ones to make at the end of your life. And even if your death occurs In another state, your decision will be honored there.

“His Legacy Lives On”

Like most 15-year-olds, Robert Snead was excited to get his learner’s permit in 2006. When filling out the paperwork at the DMV, he paused at the question about organ donation.

“His mom is a nurse,” says Robert’s dad, Gary, “so she explained to him what it meant to be an organ donor. He just said, ‘Oh, that’s cool,’ and he made the decision to become one right there.”

Four months later, Robert was with some friends in a brutal car accident at the West End intersection of Gaskins and Quioccasin. After several hours, his parents were informed that his life could not be saved. When asked about organ donation, they remembered what Robert had said when he got his permit.

“Since he was a minor, it was really up to us as his parents,” says Gary. “But we weren’t about to overrule that decision. It was a no-brainer for us.”

His injuries prevented many of Robert’s organs from being donated, but his kidneys went to two separate recipients: a 31-year-old father of two, and a 23-year-old woman who owned a daycare facility.

“That’s two people who are walking around, breathing, enjoying life because of my son,” says Gary. “It meant a lot to be able to make something positive out of a negative.”

Gary spends time now talking to driver’s ed classes about the accident, and about Robert’s decision.

“We hadn’t had that conversation as a family,” he says, “so if he hadn’t made that decision for us, we might not have known what to do. He was a great kid, and now his legacy lives on.”

Have the Conversation

With lots of family face-time at the Thanksgiving table, it’s a perfect opportunity to talk about being an organ donor. Make your wishes known, so that it’s not a surprise or mystery if something should happen to you. And see if some of those myths are keeping your family members from making a life-saving decision.

Here are some interesting facts to get the conversation going:

. The heart can only be in transit between donor and recipient for a maximum of six hours, so it tends to stay within a 500-mile radius of where it is donated.

. Kidneys, on the other hand, remain viable for up to 48 hours, and can be sent to recipients just about anywhere in the nation.

. Kidneys are the most-needed organ, and have the highest transplantation success rate.

. Sicker patients and children take priority on the waiting list. Fame and fortune do not get you any higher on the list.

. On average, 18 people a day die while waiting for the organs they need. (At unos.org, you can see a real-time update of the number of people on transplant waiting lists.)

With so many recipients adding years to their lives, and so many donor families seeing positive outcomes from their grief, there is much to be thankful for. Don’t be afraid to consider what will happen to your organs when the time comes, or to talk to your family about the decision. One “yes” from you could mean a happier Thanksgiving for eight other families.

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Lia Tremblay is an Emmy-winning writer and editor who specializes in healthcare and science topics. She has written several articles for RFM, including reviews of local theatre productions. She lives in Colonial Heights with her husband and their son.

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